Thursday, February 16, 2012

Potty Party!

So, as promised, I am doing a post about Mikey's one-day potty training. It was a smashing success, but if you had asked me at the end of day one, I might have told you I was a nervous wreck and wasn't sure that Mikey was ready for potty training. By the middle of day three, a switch seemed to flip in Mikey's brain and he has been a potty pro ever since!

I made the decision after talking to a few of my friends who potty trained their kids early to just tackle the project in one weekend. Kevin doesn't work Fridays, so we did the potty party on a Friday, and by Sunday afternoon, I knew we would have smooth sailing from then on. This was not a spur-of-the-moment decision, mind you. I have been preparing Mikey to "toilet independently" since he could sit up on his own. I got him his first potty chair when he was probably 8 months old. He has been learning to be comfortable on the toilet for well over a year, and had pretty much mastered bowel control before I started the potty party.

The other preparation (that I didn't really plan, but once I started reading potty training books I realized was so helpful) was allowing Mikey to model us, to watch us use the toilet, and to participate with us like helping us flush and close the toilet lid afterward. We also taught him how to use the adult toilet with an adapter seat, or with us holding him up a few months before this.

The two books I used in my research were Potty Train Your Child In Just One Day by Teri Crane and Toilet Training In Less Than A Day by Azrin and Foxx. That second book is from the 70s, but it had some helpful tips that I used which were not in the first book. Anyway, the first book teaches the philosophy that your child's potty learning experience should be fun, and what better way to do that than throw a party? Teri Crane has ten or twelve party themes to choose from, with suggestions for activities and decorations, and even treat recipes. We did a "choo-choo" themed party because Mikey is into them right now (since Nana and Papa got him a choo-choo for Christmas).

Anyway, here are some of our supplies that made the day a success... If you're thinking of potty training your little one, I highly recommend these books, and talking to friends who have had success too. If I knew it would go that well, I might have done it a month or two sooner! A friend of mine said that 22 months is a really good age since developmentally, kids are eager to please their parents, and they want to emulate everything we do. Plus, they usually cannot talk back or ask for their diapers again because they're too young.

This is the doll we used to teach Mikey about wearing big boy underpants, the difference between wet and dry, and consequences of going potty or poop in your pants. I made those Spiderman underwear for the doll the night before, and just stapled them on him because I was too lazy to sew anything. I knew I'd be throwing the fake underwear away after one day anyway.

The doll's name is Pablo -- he's a character from the cartoon The Backyardigans. Mikey absolutely LOVED him. He was so excited when he woke up the morning of his potty party and got to take Pablo ("PaBo") with him everywhere he went. They were little buddies from the start!

These are the presents we got Mikey for his graduation party that Friday evening. We did a ceremonial throwing away of his diapers and danced around the house singing, "Dry Pants! Dry Pants! Mikey is a big boy! No more diapers! Mikey is a big boy!" Then we let him open his toy train, his 4-pack of puzzles (one of which was trains), and his Thomas the train pillow pet.

Underwear that Mikey helped pick out at the store. His little bum looks so cute in his new underwear!

This was the treat tray I made for the potty party day. We had a dining car on our train (the piano) that had the treat tray for every time his pants were dry, and every time he went potty or poop in the toilet. He loved to look in all the little cups and decide which one he wanted to eat each time.

A bunch of library books and videos with either potty themes or train themes. We needed some things to keep us busy on Friday while we were learning.

The homemade potty charts: The one for Pablo has a picture of him, a toilet, and a pair of underwear. We used this during the morning session when Mikey was teaching Pablo how to use the toilet, and Pablo would get a sticker on his chart whenever his pants were dry, or he used the toilet like a big boy. I added Mikey's potty chart to the wall right above Pablo's for the afternoon portion, when Mikey got to try on his big boy undies and start learning how to keep them dry.

I decorated the bathroom like a sleeper car on the train (again, a suggestion from the Teri Crane book) and Mikey thought it was so fun! It's hard to see, but I drew a choo-choo and a bunch of stars on the mirror with dry-erase pens.

We made the bathtub into a makeshift bed and we would play a game of going to sleep and waking up in there on the potty party day. Mikey loved it.

Here is his new toilet setup. A stool and a seat adapter, so he can climb up onto the toilet totally unassisted. He broke our toilet paper holder a while back... but there are some flushable wipes on the back of the toilet now for him.

(By the way -- I LOVE this toilet seat for boys. It is a Sesame Street one and makes fun noises when you squeeze the one of the handles, but the reason I love it is that it has a flexible splash guard that is really difficult for a child to remove, but doable for an adult. The splash guard is soft enough that it bends when he's scooting himself back onto the seat, or scooting forward to get off, so it's not in the way, but it catches the potty and channels it down into the toilet bowl even if Mikey isn't leaning the way he should. Our old seat adapter had a removable splash guard and he didn't like it. It was hard plastic and he would take it off immediately whenever he sat down, so I'd have to monitor closely to make sure his pee would make it into the toilet.)

The potty charts at the end of day one: Pablo had three stickers on his chart, Mikey had quite a few more, as you can see. On the first day, Mikey was peeing every 15-20 minutes because he never knew about holding it, and we were feeding him tons of fluids. By day two, he stretched it out to about every 20-45 minutes. By day three, he could go 1-2 hours between potties. He is totally independent with the toilet now, except for pulling his undies and pants back up and washing his hands. He also still needs help to wipe after #2. But other than those small tasks, he can do everything himself! We are so proud of our little guy and his achievements! His other big boy milestones as of late are that he no longer sits in a high chair -- he has a toddler chair that pulls up to the table -- and he no longer drinks from sippy cups. He feeds himself independently too, for the most part, using his own plastic utensils.

Before we know it, he's going to be tying his shoes and riding a bike! My next post is going to be all about Mikey and his big 2nd birthday! So I'll get some more pictures of him on here soon :)

6 comments:

Meg said...

Some questions: Did you ask him if had to go, did he tell you, or did you just take him in there every 15-20? You make it sound so easy and oh, how I would love for Peter to be out of diapers before #3 comes! Congrats to you and Mikey, that is way cool!!

Melissa and Matt said...

Wow Jamie! That's awesome! Thanks for sharing! This gives me some good ideas for preparing Madison! Great job Mikey! Way to use the potty!

Jamie said...

Meg: The author recommends not asking the toddler "Do you have to go potty?" since most toddlers love to answer "no" to every question. Instead, I was taking him every 15-20 during his training day, and by the end of day two, he started to tell me either "potty" or "uh-oh" when he needed to go. He still doesn't tell me EVERY time he needs to go, and he's been sick the past four days so we've had a few setbacks, but we do dry pants checks and reward him with lots of praise for keeping his pants dry. He's supposed to make the connection between using the toilet and keeping his pants dry. That way he shouldn't expect a treat or prize every time he uses the toilet; he gets a treat or praise when we check his pants two or three times a day and they are dry.

Jamie said...

P.S. He thinks it's fun. Whenever I say "Let's check your pants" he touches his crotch and shouts "DIE!" (for "DRY!")

annie said...

i think i know what i'm going to do for my next birthday.

Beth at Aunties said...

What an awesome mommy Mikey has! Jamie, this is wonderful and I am so proud of both of you!!! It was fun to see and can't wait to hear him say "die!" Thanks for sharing...I am so homesick for him and his adorable sister. We are looking forward to a visit soon...I hope.

Let us know when his birthday present arrives...

xoxo